#30: The Heart of Disclosure

In this week’s episode, we talk about the heart behind Full Disclosure.  Specifically common misconceptions, who it benefits, what it’s for, etc.  We didn’t want to go into a ton of the logistics of the Full Disclosure process (although we might do this at some point in another episode) - instead, we really wanted to focus on the heart behind the Full Disclosure. Here are a couple of the things we discuss:  - The importance of integration - for him to integrate this part of his story into his life - he does this by writing it out and sharing it with others (another man, his wife if she wants to hear it, God). - The importance of her getting to know anything and everything she needs to know (it’s her decision) - and ultimately it being something that can restore dignity to her soul.   - The importance of getting all the lies and all the secrets out on the table - it’s not the full disclosure that ends the marriage, it’s the choices he made that might end the marriage.  It’s typically continued lies that puts the nail in the coffin, not coming to the confessional. We are so glad YOU are here, thanks for joining us!       Here is a link to the book I read 18 years ago that was a complete game changer in many ways but was also the book that introduced us to the concept of a disclosure. “Thoughts become clear when they flow over the lips and through pencil tips” - we are still looking for who to credit this quote to! “Confession is the catalyst for change.” - I heard Kelly Minter say this recently in a podcast episode of hers and it really resonated with me. MasterClasses for men in January:  Empathy and Intimacy Aversion. Info on the Empowered Boundaries MasterClass for women is here, registration is currently open for the class starting on January 18th. (The class on January 13th is sold out.)  Would love to connect with you on Instagram - @shelley_martinkus.  We offer 1:1 coaching, couples recovery coaching, support groups, MasterClasses and on-line courses - check out our websites: redemptiveliving.com and rlforwomen.com for the full scoop!  Click here to subscribe to Shelley’s {almost} monthly letter + announcements. Click here to subscribe to Jason’s list.  Questions for the Podcast? Email us with the subject line: Podcast.