#25: Understanding Acting In and Gaslighting

In this week’s episode we discuss Acting In which is also called Intimacy Aversion.  We also discuss Gaslighting, a close cousin to Acting In. Intimacy Aversion is keeping others at arms length in order to self-protect and self-preserve (in an unhealthy way).  While this is a part of the human condition, it’s especially prevalent with men struggling with sexual integrity issues and it’s incredibly damaging - for some, it’s emotionally abusive. We also dig into Gaslighting.  There is a difference between Intimacy Aversion and Gaslighting which lies in the motivation. The motivation behind Intimacy Aversion is more about self-preservation whereas the motivation with Gaslighting is about making someone think they are crazy. We discuss reasons for these behaviors and what to do as a wife when this happens.  We are so glad YOU are here and look forward to discussing more of how to heal from Intimacy Aversion NEXT week.    Acting In techniques can be found here. We mention Sarah Morales and the great work she is doing around Gaslighting.  She can be found here. We mention the Sitting on Secrets Episode from Season #1 (Episode 10) which can be found here. MasterClasses for men can be found here.  Info on the Empowered Boundaries MasterClass for women is here.  Would love to connect with you on Instagram - @shelley_martinkus.  We offer 1:1 coaching, couples recovery coaching, support groups, MasterClasses and on-line courses - check out our websites: redemptiveliving.com and rlforwomen.com for the full scoop!  Click here to subscribe to Shelley’s {almost} monthly letter.  Questions for the Podcast? Email us with the subject line: Podcast.