62. The Bravest Thing We Can Say is “Help”

Today’s episode is a heart to heart as Molly and Debbie dive into their discussion of the innate human need for connection and how it can be blocked by the armor we encase ourselves in. The healing, open discussion that Debbie presents to us challenges our need to feel that we are in control over our decisions.  There are times where we all so desperately need help, but what happens when we are afraid that the help we might receive isn’t what we actually need or want? For many, like Debbie, this may bring on feelings of rage and shame– feelings, like Molly suggests, that may just be secondary emotions shielding us from rejection, loss of control, grief or sadness. Tune in! Episode Quotes “People are just doing their best all the time … They’re not doing this to me– they’re just doing this.” –Molly Carmel “When we can be forgiving of others, we can be forgiving of ourselves.” –Molly Carmel Key Highlights Our connection with food can keep us from living the life we were intended to live; When we armor ourselves, it can keep others from hearing us when we ask for help; We may desperately want help, but don’t want to ask for it because we think others will help in a way we don’t want them to; When we loosen our expectations of others, it can make forgiving others easier; Shame is a function of protection; Openness, the ability to be open and vulnerable with others, can be healing About Molly Carmel Molly is a leading addiction and eating disorder therapist and the founder of the Beacon Program, which offers individual and group solutions to help people break free from their destructive relationships with food and dieting. She is also the author of ‘Breaking up with Sugar’ and the host of ‘What You’re Craving’ Podcast. Connect with Molly Want to spend MORE time together? Me too! Here are all the ways: Instagram: @mollycarmel Facebook: Molly Carmel YouTube: Molly Carmel Free Mini Masterclass: mollycarmel.com/signup Breaking Up with Sugar Course: molly-carmel.mykajabi.com/buws-course Breaking Up with Sugar Facebook Group: facebook.com/groups/buwsbook Monthly Group Coaching: mollycarmel.com/coaching-with-molly Weekly IntenSati Spiritual Fitness Class: mollycarmel.com/intensati