61. Showing Up Authentically, Codependency Wounds, and Gaslighting Behaviors with Dr. Brad Reedy

Today’s episode is all about understanding how the deepest experiences we had in our childhoods can manifest in our adult lives. Molly welcomes Dr. Brad Reedy and he explains that the “attachment wounds” that we have today really are the result of some traumas we may have had in the past when we were forming our identity and having first connections. These wounds may have been developed due to some kind of abandonment and/or negligence.    Dr. Brad also discusses the importance of expressing ourselves, showing up as who we are in all situations, and respecting our time to heal old traumas. You will also learn the concepts of gaslighting (a psychological term to refer to subtle manipulation) and narcissism (a characteristic of someone who has a wound of not being seen or recognized). Tune in!   Episode Quotes   “Once you’re allowed to be who you are, you have access to all the energy, all the magic, all the love.” – Dr. Brad Reedy “If your children need you to be perfect, they’re doomed. That’s a fact. They just need you to be human and being human means making mistakes, apologizing, and working on it again.” – Dr. Brad Reedy     Key Highlights Dr. Brad talks about the importance of showing up authentically in life, expressing ourselves and knowing that people around will be ok with it; What’s an attachment wound, how it affects us as adults, and how we can start to heal it in order to be better people; Often times when we were kids (and sometimes as adults) we were thought to sacrifice our inner peace to be accepted by parents/others; Dr. Brad explains how therapists, mentors, and coaches need to be a good fit because they’re also humans and sometimes also need to work on themselves; The concept of gaslighting and how people can subtlety manipulate us into doubting ourselves; How to honor and respect our own time to properly heal the wounds from our traumas.   Related Links Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller Gaslight (1944)   About Dr. Brad Reedy Dr. Brad Reedy is a co-owner and Clinical Director of Evoke Therapy Programs, an experientially-based therapy program for adolescents, young-adults and families. He is also the Founder of Enlightening Relationships and provides parent coaching, couples therapy, and individual therapy. He has served on the Board of the Utah Department of Child and Family Services, the Board of the National Association of Therapeutic Schools and Programs, and the En Garde Arts Board, a New York based Theatre Company. Dr. Brad is a prolific public speaker and has been invited to deliver keynote addresses at conferences, private events, nationally syndicated radio shows, and universities on experiential therapy, mental health issues treatment, childhood issues, and parenting. After years as a parent educator, having broadcast over 1,400 webinars on parent and family issues, he authored The Journey of the Heroic Parent: Your Child's Struggle and the Road Home and The Audacity to be You: Learning to Love Your Horrible, Rotten Self. He also hosts the podcast, Finding You: An Evoke Therapy Podcast. You can follow his Instagram account @drbradreedy - it's amazing.   Connect with Dr. Brad Reedy Instagram: @drbradreedy   About Molly Carmel Molly is a leading addiction and eating disorder therapist and the founder of the Beacon Program, which offers individual and group solutions to help people break free from their destructive relationships with food and dieting. She is also the author of ‘Breaking up with Sugar’ and the host of ‘What You’re Craving’ Podcast.   Connect with Molly Want to spend MORE time together? Me too! Here are all the ways: Instagram: @mollycarmel Facebook: Molly Carmel YouTube: Molly Carmel Free Mini Masterclass: mollycarmel.com/signup Breaking Up with Sugar Course: molly-carmel.mykajabi.com/buws-course Breaking Up with Sugar Facebook Group: facebook.com/groups/buwsbook Monthly Group Coaching: mollycarmel.com/coaching-with-molly Weekly IntenSati Spiritual Fitness Class: mollycarmel.com/intensati