Ep. 72 A Conversation About Dating & Sex After Sexual Trauma with Dr. Holly Richmond

Dr. Holly Richmond is a Somatic Psychologist, Certified Sex Therapist, and Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. This unique combination of credentials enables her to focus on clients’ cognitive process as well as their somatic health. She works from a sex-positive approach, meaning: “all sex is good sex as long as it’s consensual and pleasurable.” An international authority on contemporary sexuality, Dr. Richmond offers a fresh, yet authoritative perspective on today’s sexual challenges and tomorrow’s erotic evolutions. Seen as a pioneer in bridging the gap between sexual health and technological development, her work positively impacts individual, relational, and societal beliefs regarding sexuality. As a trusted authority on sexual health issues, with a significant media following, Dr. Richmond has appeared on national and international talk shows, and is regularly quoted in publications and media outlets, including the New York Times, CNN, Wired, Forbes, NBC, Vice, Los Angeles Magazine, The Daily Mail, The New York Post, Men’s Health, Glamour, Cosmopolitan, Allure, and Health. Dr. Richmond’s experiential, therapeutically-driven perspective will legitimatize, normalize, demystify, and remove pathological ideology from today’s common sexual concerns. Hey everyone! Welcome to today’s episode of the Wright Conversations Podcast! For today’s episode, I’m joined by Dr. Holly Richmond to talk about sexual trauma, the parameters of reclaiming healthy sexuality, and when it’s the right time to share the details of our stories. We also talk about the common misconceptions around sexual trauma, working through the trauma with the perpetrator, and where survivors can start on their journey of recovery. Let’s delve in!   In this Episode You’ll Learn: [02:21] A bit about Dr. Richmond. [03:22] Getting into sexual trauma. [07:26] Reclaiming healthy sexuality. [13:10] When it’s a good time to share the history with a new person. [18:19] BDSM, Power play, and sexual trauma. [21:32] Common misconceptions. [25:18] Working with victims and their perpetrators. [27:48] Where to start your journey.   Quotes: “Most survivors of sexual trauma, and I’m going to say most people in general, have no idea what turns them on.“ [09:36] “Sexual trauma does not happen by ourselves. Sexual trauma happens in relationship, therefore it has to be healed in relationship.” [11:20] “Over 85% of sexual trauma is perpetrated by someone known to the survivor, and it is not violent.” [22:10]   Connect with Dr. Holly Richmond Website:            drhollyrichmond.com. Instagram:          @drhollyrichmond. Twitter:              @drhollyrichmond. LinkedIn:            Dr. Holly Richmond.     Connect with Rachel Wright Website:            https://rachelwrightnyc.com Instagram:          @thewright_rachel Twitter:              @thewrightrachel   Resources Reclaiming Pleasure. RAINN. Modern Sex Therapy Institutes.   Get a 1-day FREE Trial and 40% OFF A Yearly Subscription at Beducated! Use Promo Code: WRIGHTCONVERSATION.   Get 20% OFF Your First Order at The Honey Pot! Use Promo Code: Rachel20   WIN A FREE INTIMACY AFTER DARK DECK!   Get 30% OFF the NEW After Dark Deck! Use Promo Code: Rachel   Get your Zumio Discount!   Call to Action Please, if you love this episode, share it with your friends and others. To help this podcast grow, please leave a review, and don’t forget to subscribe.