Signs You May Have Experienced Emotional Abuse in The Past

In this episode John follows on from his podcast about signs to identify a toxic relationship with his tips on signs showing you may have experienced emotional abuse in the past. One of the reasons why we find ourselves in a toxic relationship cycle is due to emotional abuse experienced in our childhood, but how can we identify when this is the case?
 
KEY TAKEAWAYS

We can repress what we went through as a way of coping. By understanding and acknowledging how your experience can affect you know you are more able to move on and the following are markers that suggest you have been a victim of emotional abuse in the past.
You are not good at making your own decisions. 
You are a people pleaser.
You minimise toxic behaviour.
You get angry or frustrated easily.
You often feel defensive.
You view yourself negatively.
You find it hard to cope when people are upset or angry.
You continue to inadvertently choose toxic partners.
You constantly question if you are loved.
You have difficulty accepting affection.
You have nightmares about relationships.


BEST MOMENTS
‘Some examples of this may include humiliation, manipulation, verbal aggression, belittling and intimidation.’
‘This is often the case for people who are highly focused on the needs of others. People pleasing, for example.’ 
‘You could  deny that it's actually that bad, that they don’t really mean it as you try to rationalise your past experiences to yourself.’
‘If you find yourself feeling particularly tense whenever people around you erupt, it may be because you used to deal with that a lot in the past.’
‘You were just never really made to feel that positivity either existed or lasted.’
 
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Having spent a life choosing unhealthy relationships and self sabotaging my own success, I now coach people to live a life they choose.
 
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