My Husband Is Having An Emotional Affair. Help!

Today, a question from a woman who has supported her husband in every single aspect of his life only to find out he's been having an emotional affair.
Here is the full question:- I’ve been married for almost 10 years (married at 18) and have really been struggling for at least the last five - particularly with trying to get my husband to put in 50% effort when it comes to our household labour. We don’t even have kids but we did get married young. I have been having this fight for years and not gotten anywhere but now it’s at the point where there really isn’t any excuse because I’m earning considerably more than him and still doing 99% of the domestic effort. Well, it came to a head last night when I confronted him about messages I found of him with another woman complaining about how hard done by he is in our relationship etc, incredibly inappropriate intimate personal messages about his wife of almost ten years to a woman he barely knows. Anyway, I didn’t know what else to do other than message you. I’m terrified of what is next, of being alone for the first time since I was 13, of a failed marriage at a young age, and having to go through divorce. Of not knowing who I am. I think I just need some words of support and confirmation that I am doing the right thing, that I’m not overreacting. I don’t have a large support network, so I needed to tell someone who would understand.
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