Imposter Syndrome Post Baby, A Partner Comes Out As Trans & Becoming A Surrogate

This week – navigating a partner coming out as trans, imposter syndrome after maternity leave & becoming a surrogate for a friend.

My husband, who I’ve been with since I was 21 (I am now 40) has revealed to me very recently that they are trans. I love them so much, and all I want is for them to be happy and fulfilled and completely themself. That said, I am fighting a personal battle. Do I stay married to this person, and change my own identity from a straight woman to a lesbian with a trans wife? Do I end the marriage and support my ex-spouse as a friend instead of a lover? 
Since returning to work after having a baby, I’ve been struck with the most horrific imposter syndrome. I am now doing a full time job in part time hours, and I feel the amount of overtime I’m doing to try and keep up is unsustainable. How can I overcome this awful feeling of trying to keep up and feeling like I’m pretending to know what I’m doing? 
I am considering being a surrogate for one of my friends. She is a trans woman who already has a daughter. She would love another child and I said that I would be open to being a surrogate. I am 36, married with 1 child who is 15. I have no plans on having any more children. I loved being pregnant and it would be nice to experience it again. I would love to know your thoughts. 

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Executive Producer: Edwina Stott Audio Production: Adrian Walton Managing Producer: Elle Beattie 
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