Is Staying Friends With My Ex Holding Me Back?

A relationship ending on good terms is a wonderful thing, but can staying friends with an ex be counter-productive?
Today Clementine answers:

Last year I entered my first serious (and queer) relationship at 30 years old. Prior to that I was figuring out my sexuality and experimenting with a lot of situationships. We remained friends post-breakup. Basically, we do all the same things we did before except platonically, but lately I am starting to feel like it is holding me back. I'd like to start dating again but it just feels pointless: why go have dinner with someone new when I could have dinner with someone I actually like to spend time with? I'd be lying if I said I didn't still have feelings for my old partner. My question is - is staying friends with my ex healthy or is it holding me back?

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