185. Emotionally Regulated Parenting

How do you stay emotionally regulated as a parent? If you’re anything like me, it can actually be quite difficult, especially when you have other things going on in your life. It’s important to create a sense of peace and balance in your life. In this episode, I’m talking about my own recent experiences in parenting and how I’m learning to regulate my emotions better by focusing on my emotional, mental, physical, and energetic health.   How to Help Your Emotional Regulation Recognize the circumstances, thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. Be willing to disappoint other people to maintain your own peace. Understand what you can do to help yourself feel regulated. Protect your energy.   The Pain of Emotional Dysregulation We’ve all been there – you’re at an incredible event, and when you come home, you experience a dopamine crash. Your mood lowers, and you just crash. It feels awful, especially when it happens often. That’s why it’s important to put into practice things that help you regulate your emotions. Emotional regulation is about more than just your emotions. You have to target it emotionally, mentally, physically, and energetically to make long-term regulation possible. Part of the emotional regulation piece is finding ways you can bring yourself more peace every single day. It’s important that you find what brings you peace because what works for me may not work for you. For me, a consistent, balanced, and realistic work plan is essential, as is following the 80/20 principle and creating realistic order in my week.   Staying Emotionally Regulated as a Parent When it comes to being an emotionally regulated parent, you need to learn to set boundaries with your children. Are these going to be comfortable? Probably not – but you need to do it anyway. Anything that gives you a sense of peace and calm in your home will also help to balance your emotions. Create daily rituals that balance you: have baths, light the good candles, and treat your physical body. Think about how you can help your body feel more regulated. What kind of activities might bring you peace and balance? These are the things that you need more of in your life. In situations where you find yourself completely emotionally dysregulated, how can you commit to your mental, emotional, physical, and energetic health in a way that will prepare you so you aren’t as dysregulated when massive triggers occur? Let me know in the comments on the episode page.   In This Episode  What happens when you experience a dopamine hit 5:45] The elements involved with emotional regulation [12:45] How to maintain more peace on a daily basis [17:15] The importance of setting boundaries with your children [19:00] Why it’s important to do things that make you feel comfortable, balanced, and at peace [21:30] What kind of activities might bring you peace and regulation [23:30]   Quotes “How do we go about our daily basis every day, even without a trigger, where we are trying to feel more at peace? I don’t like to say to feel control because a lot of times, feeling control can definitely feel more abrupt and disciplinarian. I want this to feel loving.” [16:52] “If I feel out of control, I’m not at peace. But if I feel at peace, then I also feel like there’s some order of control.” [17:12] “You will know you are setting a boundary when it feels so incredibly uncomfortable. It’s showing you that you are a different person now.” [18:31] “I can’t just try to find peace in the moment. I have to use distraction techniques in the moment, a lot of times, but I need to instill more peace into my every day.” [23:59] “Nothing feels better than feeling amazing in your authentic body.” [24:11] “How do we keep ourselves more regulated so that when triggers and circumstances come up, we’re not as reactive?” [27:12]   Resources Mentioned 31 Days of FIT. Learn more HERE. Muscle Maintenance During Fat Loss. Waitlist HERE. Fit Woman Collective™. Learn more HERE. Transform® 8.0 deposit link is now open. Sign up HERE. Follow Dr. Ali Novitsky on TikTok | Facebook | Instagram | YouTube Subscribe to The Muscles and Mindset Podcast on Apple Podcasts *** Ali Novitsky MD, this podcast, and podcast write-up are NOT providing medical advice ***   Related Episodes  Episode 180: Energetic Health Episode 125: Brave Boundaries with Dr. Sasha Shillcutt Episode 184: Setting Boundaries Starting with Self