Ep. #71: My Chat w/Late Bloomer Krista, Part 2

In this Part 2 episode, Robin continues her conversation with Krista, a 49-year old late bloomer. Krista never really used any labels for herself regarding how she felt about boys and girls, men and women - but she did know she was never really enamored with ‘guys’, when all of her female school friends were! After a secret relationship with a girl in high school, (they even went to the high school Prom together), Krista moved out of state for college and married a man when she was quite young. The minute she left that 3-year marriage, (and around the time of her college graduation), her very first thought turned to - you guessed it - WOMEN! But, not knowing where to find her community of gay women or how to even begin to date a woman, Krista’s attention was distracted by a very nice young guy, who she would ultimately marry.    In this episode of the “Coming Out Late” podcast, you will hear Krista talk about . . . WHO and HOW she was outed to her husband.Does anyone, besides us, have the ‘right’ to out us to people we know/love?Krista’s plans for her future: divorce? Move out?Learning to NOT JUDGE someone when they’ve had an affair. “Acceptance” and “kindness” is always the better way to go, versus ‘judgment’.What constitutes an ‘affair’? Is the thinking around ‘affairs’ also an old construct that needs to be re-thought and re-visited?Letting go of an unhealthy catalyst relationship.Am I still gay if I’m no longer with my catalyst?Making gay friends is soooooo important! Building healthy friendships and building a gay community should be the priority over a relationship.Recognizing unhealthy self-soothing behaviors (i.e., ‘shopping’), and recognizing codependent behavior!Get outside in nature; get to know yourself more - spend alone time w/yourself.How 1:1 private Coaching w/Robin has helped Krista out enormously; Robin has helped her with her catalyst experience, the messy middle, and moving forward.If YOU would like to share your story (anonymously or publicly), on the Coming Out Late podcast, email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.To receive one-on-one private Coaching with Robin, email her at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.Wanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider buying Robin a “virtual” coffee as a sign of your appreciation for all the time, love and energy she pours into our Community. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: https://www.buymeacoffee.com/RobinDouglassLinks to resources:THE 2023 “COMING OUT LATE RETREAT” SCHEDULE:We are “retreating” to:(1) Phoenix, Arizona: April 13, 14, 15, & 16, 2023(2) Rehoboth Beach, DE: April 27, 28, 29, and 30, 2023 - “Women’s Fest”To be put on the waiting list for ANY of the THREE Retreats, (Florida, Arizona or Delaware), email Robin at: Comingoutlater@gmail.com.“WOMEN’S FEST” RETREAT, REHOBOTH BEACH, DEFor more information about the details of the “Women’s Fest” weekend itself, they are slowly adding information to their website as their event details get solidified; you can go to: https://www.camprehoboth.com//womensfest.WWW.BUYMEACOFFEE.COMWanna support our “Coming Out Late” podcast? Then please consider 'buying me a coffee' as a sign of appreciation for bringing you this awesome podcast week after week. Any and all donations are deeply, deeply appreciated!!  Simply go to: