Trauma Work, Tapping, and Narcissistic Rage with Michelle Farris

Sherry and Carla first talk about the importance of discernment when it comes to hiring the right coach or therapist and a few of the differences between therapists and coaches, especially when it comes to trauma work. They then welcome MIchelle Ferris, a licensed psychotherapist and anger management specialist. Michelle loves helping codependent people create healthy relationships without sacrificing their big hearts. She talks about how to begin to trust your intuition as a codependent, narcissistic rage, and walks Sherry and Carla through a live round of tapping to give an example of a powerful tool that can help dissolve fear and anxiety.    What You’ll Hear In This Episode: Love Fix Question of the Day - What if you have been in toxic relationships in the past and now have a hard time trusting your gut?  Until you release the old stuff and work on your trauma, it’s hard to bring in anything healthy.  How Michelle defines recovery, and how to begin learning self-trust and building up relationships built on trust.  If you have any issues with codependency, self-trust is going to be really tough. When we can really look at our relationship with ourselves, that’s when things start to change.  Find out how to connect with Michelle, along with how to work with Sherry and Carla on overcoming codependency, dating, break-ups, healing from toxic relationships, and gaining confidence. Michelle talks about the many forms that support can come in, including coaches, therapists, solid friends, and 12 Step Programs.  How can we better learn to trust our intuition?  How do our fears sometimes get in the way of us seeing the reality of our experiences in living in our truth?  How is narcissistic rage different from someone just getting mad?     Tweetables:  “You can be a therapist, but if you haven’t had trauma training you really shouldn’t be saying that you’re doing trauma therapy.” - Sherry “You really need to have some background in trauma therapy to say that you work in trauma.” - Sherry  “Recovery is the process of unlearning the behaviors in childhood that really hurt us and to really learn how to self-trust and build relationships that work on all the skills that go along with that.”- Michelle  “If you have any issues with codependency, self-trust is going to be really tough, because it’s going to be more intoxicating to look for the answer outside yourself.” - Michelle  “When we can really look at how we are in the relationship with ourselves, that’s when things start to change.” - Michelle  “The narcissistic rage is ‘I’m not getting what I want, so I’m going to hurt you in any way I can so that I can avoid my own behavior.’” - Michelle  “The narcissist is going to make themselves right, so they don't have to do the work.” - Michelle  Connect with Us! The Love Fix | @thelovefixpodcast Become a Member — Codependency Special — Wake Up Recovery — $1 trial membership Join the Narcissistic Abuse and Codependent Relationship Transformation Challenge FB group The Love Fix Relationship Quiz   Sherry Sign up for one of Sherry’s coaching or psychotherapy packages here: Sherrygaba.com/addiction-recovery/sessions-psychotherapy/rates-insurance   Gain access to Sherry’s FREE ebooks for codependency, love addiction, or narcissistic abuse. Relationship-quizzes.com   Carla Website | Instagram | Facebook | Contagious Love | Online Dating Bootcamp   Sign up to be in TDR database: https://www.threedayrule.com/CarlaRomo   Michelle Farris: Website| Facebook | YouTube    Today’s episode is sponsored by Carla’s book Contagious Love: Break Free from Codependency for Damn Good and Sherry’s book Love Smacked: How To Stop the Cycle of Relationship Addiction and Codependency To Find Everlasting Love.   Thanks to Contagious Love and Love Smacked for sponsoring this episode.   International Coaching Federation  Al-Anon  CoDA