S17E4: How to Stand Your Ground and Hold Gaslighters Accountable

Last week Dr. Dom and Terri discussed how to identify various forms of manipulation. And, we heard you. It was a much-needed, albeit tender topic, about how we function in our interpersonal relationships. This week, Dr. Dom and Terri move out of the tender area into a place of power by outlining concrete steps you can take to stand 10 toes in who you are as a person and how you want to be treated going forward. Lady, the secret is it all starts with you and how you view and treat yourself. We told you last week and want to remind you to pack a lot of self-compassion and self-forgiveness as you build your confidence muscle in navigating difficult situations with people who may have mal intent. But, there’s hope! Once you master these skills, you’ll be able to walk out and meet life with your head high and your back straight because you trust yourself. It’s hard work to get there, but it’s worth it because you’re worth it! If this episode resonates with you be sure to share it with a friend or sister friend and leave us a 5-star review to let others know that we’re on this journey together and we’ve got you. Additional Episodes- S2E3: Why You Might Be Struggling to Gain Confidence- S8E9: Getting the Relationship You Deserve with Allison Wellington- S10E2: Is Your Partner a Narcissist?- S10E3: How to Finally Leave Your Narcissistic Partner a Conversation with Dr. Ramani Durvasula- S17E5: What Gaslighting, Red Flags, and Manipulation Sound LikeBeing in a Relationship with Yourself is Key (Standing Your Ground Begins Within) 1. Trust yourself2. Create a positive internal dialogue3. Work on managing emotions4. Strive for confidence/wholenessStrategies to Deal with a Gaslighter 1. Listen to their side of the story (take notes if you have to) 2. Ask questions and try to get specifics from them3. Remain calm and stay silent during their outburst4. Pull up receipts and proof and call them outA Few Strategies of Self-Protectionhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/mind-games/201904/gaslighting-in-relationships-seven-ways-protect-yourselfQuote of the Day:“The ways you have learned to survive may not be the ways you wish to continue to live.”― Thema Bryant Register here for the Vibrate Higher Empowerment Workshop! Wisdom Wednesdays with TerriCultivating H.E.R. Space Sanctuary Resources:Dr. Dom’s Therapy PracticeBranding with Terri Melanin and Mental HealthTherapy for Black Girls Psychology TodayTherapy for QPOC Where to find us:Twitter: @HERspacepodcastInstagram: @herspacepodcastFacebook: @herspacepodcastWebsite: cultivatingherspace.com