How to Be Thirty and Actually Thrive According to a Turning 30 Coach

In episode 35 of Quiet the Clock, Emma Wilson, the Turning 30 Coach, joins the show. Beth and Emma discuss societal pressures and expectations that surround women who turn 30.  They discuss navigating dating, motherhood,egg-freezing, societal pressures, and timelines. Emma shares how she helps her clients to feel more confident, embrace their unique journey, and get unstuck in all areas of life from careers, dating, friendships, finances, lifestyle, and more. Emma shares her own journey of entering and navigating her 30s and how she found life coaching as a support, eventually becoming one herself.  Emma specializes in helping women embrace this incredible decade free of expectation and pressure.  She helps women reframe this decade as a time for growth not judgment and comparison. They discuss the importance of shifting mindset, accepting one's unique journey, and differentiating between societal expectations and personal desires. During this episode they discuss finding love when you least expect it, the value of self-awareness, and the importance of community and connection. Quotes: “I think I'd even write if I meet someone at 35 or 40, it doesn't really matter to me. Like as long as it's the right person. And it was like the first time I've been practicing those thoughts. So just nice because oh my gosh.” “When you're in that position and you reach out for help, whether it be a therapist, whether it be a coach, often what you want to do is run towards the new timelines or the new milestones.” “We do that by doing lots of valuable work. So what's important to you? What are the things that you're looking for? Is it security and stability and a safe home? Are you in the nesting phase of your life or you're looking for adventure? Or are you looking for travel? Are you looking for fun? And I think that's what a lot of people don't do.” “There has to be gratitude for where you are... It might not be 100% acceptance, but some level I'm going to be okay whether I'm with someone or not, and this is my path.” “If we can practice that mindset already when we're single, of being like, but when I meet someone, it won't feel late. It will just feel like the right time…. then you open yourself up to a whole different experience being single and dating.” Key Points: Navigating Societal Pressures [00:00:00] Discussion on the societal pressures and expectations surrounding turning 30, challenging societal timelines. Uncertainty in Dating, Motherhood, and Egg Freezing [00:00:32] Exploration of navigating uncertainty in dating, motherhood, and egg freezing, feeling limited by time to build the desired partnership, marriage, and family. Emma's Journey and Becoming a Life Coach [00:02:31] Emma shares her personal journey, including her turning 30 crisis, leaving her law career, discovering coaching and therapy, and becoming a life coach specializing in helping women in their 30s. Shifting out of societal pressure [00:09:52] Helping women embrace their journey and accept where they are, moving out of waiting and living their lives now. Acceptance and self-discovery [00:10:44] Encouraging clients to accept their current situation, explore their emotions, and build a strong foundation before pursuing new milestones. Letting go of time and pressure [00:15:24] Slowing down, embracing gratitude, and being open to different paths, leading to a greater sense of happiness and fulfillment. The belief in meeting someone when least expected [00:19:09] Discussion on the annoyance of societal narratives about meeting someone when least expected and the quickness of meeting a partner after letting go of pressure. The impact of freezing eggs on mindset [00:20:00] Conversation about how freezing eggs opened up the speaker to a mindset shift, letting go of the rush and pressure to find a partner. Challenging the need for instant butterflies [00:21:30] Exploration of the expectation for instant butterflies in relationships and the realization that building a solid foundation on friendship can lead to a fulfilling partnership. Egg freezing journey and advocacy [00:28:10] Emma discusses her own experience with egg freezing and her advocacy for challenging societal timelines and the fear surrounding fertility decline. The impact of stress and lifestyle on fertility [00:31:46] Emma shares how her fertility levels actually improved over time due to decreased stress and changes in her diet, challenging the notion of a fertility cliff at a certain age. Normalizing different timelines and sharing personal stories [00:35:43] Beth praises Emma's work in normalizing different paths and timelines, and the power of sharing personal stories to create a safe space for women to embrace their own journeys. Emma's community and connection [00:37:44] Emma discusses the importance of cultivating a community and connection, and the significance of normalizing experiences. Thanking Emma for her time [00:38:02] Beth expresses gratitude to Emma for joining her in the episode. Promoting Emma and the podcast [00:38:04] Beth encourages listeners to check out Emma, the Turning 30 Coach, on Instagram and promotes future episodes. She also mentions a free guide on handling differing timelines with a partner. Resources: Subscribe on YouTube Subscribe on Apple Podcasts Subscribe on Spotify