EP 46- Kirstin Smith, Kirstin Smith Coaching: Confessions of an Unhappy Housewife

Life is simple.  People make it complicated. Along our journeys, we’re taught that it’s a fairy tale. The agenda is lined out for us starting in school.  There are new rules to learn. New structures.  Processes we’re told to follow without questioning the reason why. Go to school. Make good grades. Go to college and find a good job you can work for the remainder of your life. Find someone to start a family with, get married, and sacrifice a good portion of your life raising your family. Today’s episode is going to give you a peek inside what it looks like to break with the conventional deadening of our society and the work required to rebuild a new you.  Kirstin Smith is the founder of Kirstin Smith Coaching, working with women to find their path back to their true selves through mindset, fitness, self-development, and business. She and her husband Jeff live in the Houston area with their 4 children.  Jeff and Kirstin jump in as most great friends do and start catching up on some of the developments that have occurred over the last 2 years of Kirstin’s life. They talk about politics and she shares a unique perspective on why her political party isn’t listed on the ballot. Kirstin shares how she started her college education as a ballerina, only to have it take her to the middle east where she discovered the truth about the world.  Kirstin discusses the responsibility she put on everyone else to show up a certain way for her in her life. She talks about having children, raising them, and taking back control from the government structures that exist in public education. Jeff and Kirstin discuss marriage and the many bumps in the road that come up along the way, and how she and her husband now level them before they even show up.  Kirstin shares some pretty powerful emotional and mental things she experienced along her journey to self-improvement and the revelation that changed the trajectory of her living her best life as a mom, wife, business owner, and an empowered woman set on doing one thing……….help other women escape the abyss of their lives and recreate it anew.       What You’ll Learn:   One of the biggest takeaways about adversity that came to Kirstin 30,000 feet in the sky on a flight back from a recent trip; the losses, the setbacks, etc.  Why Kirstin decided to leave her studies as a ballerina and made a pivot into Poly-science and religious studies Kirstin talks about her journeys to the middle east in disguise with middle eastern men asking about subversive text  Kristin talks about her early days while she was dating her husband and the long conversation she had with some federal agents Kirstin shares what it means to be a raging anarchist and why you shouldn’t be scared The role Kirstin played once she quit her P.h.D. program and how long she ended up staying before she quit The psychological roller coaster Kirstin went on once she started having babies  Huge takeaways about some of the stories we tell ourselves and how they can derail a marriage  The power of networking with like-minded people Why Kirstin and her husband homeschool their children How communication and being an effective communicator can make or break your marriage One thing Kirstin did that allowed her to start her own business, become a beast with time management, and how she and her husband cemented their marriage last year And much more!     Favorite Quote: “We had baby number 4. I’m like, I don’t know what’s going to happen here. And I had this realization that I can’t control how everyone else in my life is going to show up. I’ve been trying to do it for a decade, and it’s not working out, so I’m going to do something different. I decided to be the best version of me. I started going to the gym on a regular basis.  I got my nutrition dialed in and took responsibility for it. No one was going to show up at the door, and say, “Here’s a hotter body that you ordered.” No, it takes work. I had only been bitching. I started working and got into the best shape of my life.” Kirstin Smith     Connect With Kirstin:  Facebook Instagram  Book:  “Confessions of an Unhappy Housewife”   How to Get Involved: Addicted to Winning connects listeners through stories that prove why mindset matters. Jeff Brekken was working a 60-hour week on his family’s farm by the time he was 10. When he wasn’t helping with the harvest, he was at the hockey rink. Jeff’s early life experiences taught him he needs to be either all-in or all-out.  In 2000 he started a single-family home construction business and by 2008 he was looking for his next big thing. Jeff founded the Blue Sky Benefit Solutions & Rise Above HR/Recruiting on top of a lifelong passion for helping people. Through this show, Jeff will take that passion one step further. If you enjoyed this episode, head over and visit us on Apple Podcasts - leave a review and let us know what you thought! Your feedback keeps us going. Thanks for helping.