Avoiding the Divorce Hangover From the Start with Kelly Myers on The Divorce & Beyond Podcast #277

This week on the Divorce & Beyond podcast, Susan Guthrie, Esq., is joined by Certified Divorce and Mediation Coach, Kelly Myers. Together they discuss how you can start your divorce on the right foot and avoid a divorce hangover!
Kelly Myers’ goal is for individuals to not have any regrets after the divorce is over. She refers to it as the divorce hangover – the if only’s, wouldas, couldas, and shouldas of divorce. In this episode, Kelly shares some of the things she wished she had known or done differently during her divorce. 
One of the lessons Kelly learned and shares today: You may not get everything you want from your divorce, but with the right tools, mindset, and professionals, you will know exactly why you made every decision you made, you’ll understand the pros and cons of each choice, and you can move forward with confidence in your vision. 
Topics and Golden Nuggets include: 
Why it is important to look at your divorce as the opportunity to build the foundation for your future.
You must become your own advocate. You can’t rely on other professionals to do that because they are not an expert in your life. You are.
Create a vision of what you want your post-divorce life to be
Once you have your vision, use it as a tool for creating your support team and convey not only what you need, but why you believe you need it
“How can you use the law as a tool to get what you and your family need, including the ability to move forward and thrive? That’s the goal here.”
The power of organizing your thoughts and fears in a divorce notebook

If divorce is in your future, listen to this episode to gain clarity and build a strong foundation for your beyond!
 
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About this week's special guest: Kelly Myers
Kelly Myers is a Certified Divorce and Mediation Coach, Co-Parenting Specialist, and mediator. She earned her Divorce Mediation certificate from Northwestern University and has taken multiple Divorce and Family Mediation training with the acclaimed Mosten Guthrie Academy. Kelly has also been trained by Bill Eddy in High Conflict Mediation and as a New Ways for Families Coach.  
Kelly is passionate in her advocation of developing balanced co-parenting strategies to build harmony within the new family dynamic and is a part of the Co-Parenting Specialist Certification training team at Mosten Guthrie Academy. Kelly’s a graduate of the University of San Diego and earned her paralegal certificate from USD’s ABA-approved paralegal program. Kelly believes that helping people navigate the divorce process by managing their emotions, creating a divorce support team, and finding clarity on wants and needs allows people to use their divorce to build a strong foundation for their future.  
Kelly’s website: https://yourdivorceadvocate.com/

Kelly’s divorce resources: https://yourdivorceadvocate.com/divorce-resources/
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SUSAN GUTHRIE®, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond® Podcast, is nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country.  Susan is the Vice Chair of the American Bar Association Section of Dispute Resolution and is a sought-after keynote speaker, business and practice consultant, coach and trainer. You can find out more about Susan and her services here:  https://neon.page/susanguthrie
Internationally renowned as one of the leading experts in online mediation, Susan created her Learn to Mediate Online® program and has trained more than 25,000 professionals in how to transition their practice online.  Susan recently partnered with legal and mediation legend, Forrest "Woody" Mosten to create the Mosten Guthrie Academy which provides gold-standard, fully online training for mediation and collaborative professionals at all stages of their careers.  
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