The Truth About Spicing Up Your Marriage (And Why It Doesn’t Help With Low Libido) | Ep. 51

Have you heard the advice to "spice things up" to keep your sex life alive? Get kinky, say dirty words, try new positions, watch porn. I tried all of these things and more in my marriage to increase my low sex drive but I was left feeling empty, unsatisfied and unaligned with myself.  

I believe the key to more connected intimacy is becoming more of who you are in the sexual experience, not pretending to be someone you aren't. In this episode, I discuss why chasing increased physical sensations doesn’t work in the long term to enjoy sex more and the courage and truth-telling that genuine intimacy requires.Do you feel alone in your struggle to want and enjoy sex but have no idea where to start?If so- I invite you to join my free class happening on Tuesday, Sept 17 at 5:00-6:30 PACIFIC TIME: Wanting It More 101: Increase Interest and Enjoyment without Pressure or Guilt​If you're a man and would like to get information specifically aimed at you, I’m running a brand new free class for men, called Getting It More 101: Increase Her Interest and Enjoyment without Adding Pressure on Thursday, Sept. 19 at 1:00 - 2:30 pm PACIFIC TIME. Register here.​Registration for the next round of Doing It Together is now open! The 8-week program runs Oct. 2 - Nov. 30, 2024. Learn about Doing It Together program details, schedules, testimonials, and Q&A. ​Visit now.Leave a podcast review: We'd so appreciate your ​rating and review​ to help the podcast reach more couples.