Unlearning Shame: How to Reject Self Blame Culture
So often our focus here is on things that we can do as individuals to improve our lives and those of people around us, but there are some things that cannot be fixed by the individual. Regardless, society tells us that we are responsible for massive global crises like climate change, marginalised people are responsible for their own oppression and people living in poverty just need to work harder. Whilst many of us rationally know these things are not true, we struggle to let go of systemic shame. Social psychologist Dr Devon Price is on a mission to help us with this very unhelpful feeling & he’s the author of Unlearning Shame: How We Can Reject Self-Blame Culture and Reclaim Our Power. Want to become a podcast sponsor, got some feedback for me or just fancy a chat? Email me - thatshelpful@edstott.com CONNECT WITH US Connect with That's Helpful on Instagram. Find Devon on Instagram & via his Substack. BOOKS Unlearning Shame: How We Can Reject Self-Blame Culture and Reclaim Our Power TIMESTAMPS 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:00 - Devon’s own experience with shame 00:03:32 - Personal shame Vs. Systemic shame 00:06:00 - How systemic shame manifests 00:08:15 - Signs that we might be dealing with systemic shame 00:10:21 - The behaviours we display when we’re dealing with this shame 00:13:11 - How did we get here? 00:16:15 - How guilt fuels this sense of shame 00:18:00 - Shame as a distraction 00:19:15 - Systemic shame is not an effective tool for change 00:23:48 - The alternative to systemic shame 00:26:58 - How to ease shame on a personal level 00:30:46 - Letting go of perfectionism
Unlearning Shame: How to Reject Self Blame Culture