#200 - After Dark: How to Ask For What You Want in the Bedroom Feat. Whitni Miller

Summary:   Today’s episode is fun and spicy! Diane chats with Pleasure Coach and Sex Educator, Whitni Miller, to talk all about how to have fun in the bedroom. Whitni shares why it’s so important to demystify sex talk and communicate what you want with your partner, and she breaks down step-by-step how to do so. This conversation is all about pleasure, women’s bodies, sex, how to communicate, body shame and so much more!   Key Takeaways:   01:41 - Meet Whitni and how she got her start as a pleasure coach 08:03 - Finding pleasure in sex without the orgasm 09:54 - Tips if you struggle to orgasm 12:12 - How to initiate sex without fearing rejection 15:52 - What to do when you and your partners have different sexual needs 19:38 - How to break the ice and communicate what you want 22:11 - Games and resources to help spark your sexual curiosity 24:15 - Dirty talk & expressing yourself during sex 28:02 - Porn: should you do it alone or together? At all? 29:48 - Do this if you don’t know what you want 33:08 - A major concern most people have 35:50 - Whitni’s top favorite thing about her work 37:31 - Common misconceptions & myths surrounding women’s pleasure 40:33 - This is the biggest sexual organ 42:46 - Positive trends or developments in sexual wellness 46:13 - Tools & tips to overcome body insecurities/shaming  49:35 - What more women NEED to know 50:45 - How to live a pleasure-filled life 53:02 - What more men need to know about women   Resources Mentioned:   Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life Sex Talks: The Five Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life The Ethical Slut: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love Arousal: The Secret Logic of Sexual Fantasies The Body is Not an Apology, The Power of Radical Self-Love Listen to Episode 130: Afterdark - From Prude to Kinky. Have You Tried These Things? Gottman Card Decks App: https://www.gottman.com/couples/apps/  Tonight's Conversations Cards: https://www.amazon.com/Tonights-Conversation-Cards-First-Dates/dp/B09ZFG98KG  Take the quiz with your partner to find out what kinky results you match on: https://mojoupgrade.com/  Check out the wide array of vulvas here: https://www.thevulvagallery.com/      Connect with Whitni:   Join her Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/bdemoves  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bde.moves/  TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@bdemoves  Website: https://bde-moves.com/    Connect with Diane:   GET ON MY E-MAIL NEWSLETTER HERE Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dianeflores_ifbb_pro/  YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@dianeflores_ifbb_pro   Ask me anything! E-mail: diane@venusfitnessstudio.com    Work with Diane:   The Goddess Body Project 12 week program Apply to be on our Competition Team HERE Check out the New Client Offer at Venus  Ditch Deprivation 12 week Diet Coaching Program Join the Sensual Dance Movement and feel confident in your skin Get your FREE backstage packing list for competition here   Fuel Your Body with the Goods:   Cured Nutrition Code: BossBitch saves 20% off first order Fave Boss Bitch Protein Bars - Built Bars *Use Promo Code: “Diane” at check out Try Meal Prep Delivery with FitKitchen Code: Diane10  Try this Energy Shot from Magic Mind - Code: BBRadio for 20% off first order Visit Titan Nutrition for the exclusive offer for BossBitch listeners *Promo code BossBitch at check out Visit HiYo for 20% off non-alcoholic beverages HERE  Nutrishop Supplement Shop - Code: BossBitch (free shipping)   Dress Up & Show Up Like a Boss Bitch:   Get $10 off Bombshell Sports Wear HERE For 15% off at Pseudo Force Studio Apparel, use Code: BossBitch Salty Savage Fitness Apparel Code: AmandaGlitters For 15% off your purchase at Toxic Angels Bikinis use Code: Diane