EP#198: Losing Your Cool (AITAH? #2)

Summary:
In this episode, Manda discusses situations where people lose their cool and question whether they are the asshole. She reassures listeners that they are not assholes and explores the underlying reasons for losing one's cool. Manda emphasizes the importance of giving oneself grace and understanding the fear and perfectionism that often drive anger. She also encourages listeners to apologize and express appreciation to those affected by their outbursts. Manda addresses two specific scenarios: losing one's cool with a medical assistant and responding curtly to a comment from a scrub tech during surgery. She provides insights and strategies for handling these situations with empathy and self-reflection.

Takeaways:

Losing your cool does not make you an asshole; it is often a result of stress, exhaustion, and a lack of resources.
Give yourself grace and kindness for the challenges you face in your work and personal life.
Anger often stems from underlying fear and perfectionism; acknowledging and addressing these emotions can help manage anger.
Apologize and express appreciation to those affected by your outbursts; there is no expiration on appreciation, apologies, or explanations.
In challenging situations, separate the words of others from your own self-worth and focus on finding solutions.
Acknowledge the difficulty of a situation and remind yourself that you can handle hard things.
Develop a mantra or phrase to help shift your mindset and maintain confidence in stressful situations.
Reach out for support and guidance when facing challenging scenarios; there are resources available to help you navigate difficult emotions and interactions.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction: When You Lose Your Cool
02:54 Understanding and Managing Anger
05:50 Giving Yourself Grace and Kindness
10:09 Apologizing and Expressing Appreciation
13:58 Separating Words from Self-Worth
20:55 Handling Difficult Cases with Empathy
24:48 Shifting Your Mindset: You Can Do Hard Things
32:02 Seeking Support and Guidance

Keywords:
losing your cool, am I the asshole, anger management, fear, perfectionism, apologizing, appreciation, medical assistant, scrub tech, surgery