Conflict Resolution Made Easy: Managaing the Five Destructive Behaviors We All Have with Gabrielle Hartley on Divorce & Beyond #299

This week on Divorce & Beyond, Susan Guthrie, Esq., author and divorce mediator Gabrielle Hartley, Esq. returns to the show to share the secret to getting along. You’ll hear just how easy it truly can be!  
We experience conflict everywhere, including within relationships or at work. Susan Guthrie, Esq., welcomes returning guest Gabrielle Hartley, Esq., to discuss the five common conflict behaviors exhibited during the divorce process.  In this conversation, Gabrielle and Susan help listeners understand what it takes to reframe relationships, work through conflict, and walk away with a greater sense of peace. 
Gabrielle Hartley is co-chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Committee, a divorce attorney, online mediator, founder of The Private Divorce Solution, and author of "Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate." Her new book, “The Secret to Getting Along and Why It’s Easier Than You Think,” is available now for pre-order.
Topics and Golden Nuggets include:
The five destructive behaviors we all have that show up in divorce
“Forgiveness of yourself is the most important part of conflict resolution.”
Finding what behavior(s) you are demonstrating is the first step in working to resolve conflict
Getting along with anyone includes the YES Method, Understanding Your Role, and Shelving Heated Conversations.

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About this week's special guests: Gabrielle Hartley
Gabrielle Hartley is co-chair of the American Bar Association Mediation Committee, a divorce attorney, online mediator,  founder of The Private Divorce Solution, and author of "Better Apart: The Radically Positive Way to Separate." Her new book “The Secret to Getting Along and Why It’s Easier Than You Think” will be released this May. She offers a weekly newsletter, The Conflict Code” and hosts The Better Apart Blog and is a frequently quoted media expert in the peaceful divorce realm (The New York Times, Vice, WNYC, Forbes, Psychology Today,etc.) Gabrielle is former court attorney to NYS Supreme Court Judge Jeffrey Sunshine.  
While writing her first book, Better Apart; The Radically Positive Way to Separate (HarperCollins2019) she realized that we all need to get along better in all facets of our lives. Gabrielle developed the YES Method based on more than 25 years working as a top divorce lawyer and mediator.
The Secret to Getting Along was recently selected as a Next Big Idea Club must-read and her Tedx Talk on her strategy has been viewed over 62 thousand times.
Gabrielle’s website: www.gabriellehartley.com
Gabrielle on Instagram and Facebook:  @gabriellehartleyesq
Gabrielle’s new book, “The Secret to Getting Along and Why It’s Easier Than You Think”: https://gabriellehartley.com/thesecrettogettingalong/
The Secret To Getting Along is Easier Than You Think TEDx Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/gabrielle_hartley_the_secret_to_getting_along_is_easier_than_you_think
Check out Gabrielle’s past appearances on Divorce & Beyond:

Gabrielle Hartley Has the Secret to Helping Us All Get Along Better, and It Starts with Y.E.S.
Is Your Divorce Taking Too Long? BLITZ IT and BE DONE with Gabrielle Hartley
The Best Thing to Happen to Divorce in Ages with Very Special Guest Gabrielle Hartley
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SUSAN GUTHRIE®, ESQ., the creator and host of The Divorce and Beyond® Podcast, is nationally recognized as one of the top family law and divorce mediation attorneys in the country.  Susan is the Vice Chair of the American Bar Association Section of Dispute Resolution and is a sought-after keynote speaker, business and practice consultant, coach and trainer. You can find out more about Susan and her services here:  https://neon.page/susanguthrie
Internationally renowned as one of the leading experts in online mediation, Susan created her Learn to Mediate Online® program and has trained more than 25,000 professionals in how to transition their practice online.  Susan recently partnered with legal and mediation legend, Forrest "Woody" Mosten to create the Mosten Guthrie Academy which provides gold-standard, fully online training for mediation and collaborative professionals at all stages of their careers.  
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