It’s Not Your Fault: Why Childhood Trauma Shapes You With Alex Howard

Episode Highlights With AlexHis personal story and how he got into the trauma healing work he does nowThe definition of trauma and how he defines it to help people understand itHow small childhood experiences can shift how we relate to ourselves and our emotionsThe core emotional needs of children and what happens when they aren’t metCore emotional needs: boundaries, safety, and love What a maladaptive stress response is, how it happens, and what to do about itTrauma is like an ECHO (events, context, homeostatic shift, and outcome)How to help your nervous system feel safe againSelf love comes down to how we are in relationship with ourselves and how we are in relationship with our feelings and emotionsIt often isn’t a question of if our parents loved us but if they were skilled at meeting our particular need for love in the way we neededHis advice for ways to make sure our children feel how much we love them and that our core needs are being metResources We MentionIt’s Not Your Fault: Why Childhood Trauma Shapes You and How to Break Free by Alex HowardAlex Howard - websiteTrauma ConferenceBook: You Can Heal Your Life by Louise Hay