SPFPP 286: Use What You Got to Get What You Want

Many conversations I've been having these past two weeks have been around not sharing your positive herpes status with a partner. Summer is rapidly approaching and I want ya'll to be intentional with your interactions to ensure you get the outcomes you want. This episode covers the topic of not disclosing and is just the guidance I've consistently given to people who've reached out to me just venting about how unfair it is.

What people need to understand is that not disclosing isn't about herpes, it's about intimacy. We prioritize the illusion of intimacy at the detriment of our integrity when we don't disclose, and this has way more of a long-term impact on us than we realize when it comes to REAL intimacy and connecting. We get better at what we practice. So if we practice not being vulnerable, we get better at not being vulnerable. When we practice doing so let's say . . . during disclosure, yes we get better at that, but we also get better at vulnerable conversations that make us more emotionally available and connected.