SPFPP 284: Managing Expectations

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I spoke a lot to and about how important it is for men to be the best option in the last episode, along with how our behaviors directly impact hookup culture. It’s important that we align with THE code of what it is to be a Man, identify our values and live from that space of integrity.

This episode is more of . . . I took too long to write the description for this one and kind of forgot what I talked about. . . . Ok I skimmed through and remember now. So identifying your value versus increasing your value. These are two completely different things. Recognizing your value is identifying where you feel most confident and competent. For me, my value is linked to my emotional intelligence and availability as a man. Not everyone sees that to be valuable, but that doesn’t change the fact that this IS my value as it’s where I’m most confident and competent.

But like all things in 2022, it’s not exactly about what you do or how good you are at it. It’s really about how you market it. A shitty value can be marketed in a great way to achieve the results you want, so what does putting yourself out there look like when you do recognize your value. Well, you put yourself in or create an environment conducive to your skills and value, an you express it. Let your integrity be the baseline. People adapt to that to be in your life or you adapt to theirs. Alignment is where there’s no need to necessarily adapt because there’s an acceptance. . . That’s too far ahead for this episode, we’ll talk about that next.