The Surprising Truth About Independence & Being Yourself

Standard Self-improvement advice is usually beige, unhelpful and often just wrong.

We dive into the topic of "You are the 5 people you spend most time with" and learn where it is wrong and dangerous to follow. Instead, we learn a toolkit to be ourselves wherever we are and build relationships that nourish us.

Lessons:

Where common advice falls short

Signs of toxic relationships blocking you from your potential

Signs of healthy relationships

Using the Growth Mindset to control your influences and outcomes

Seeking variety from your inputs

The dangers of conforming and group-think


This episode holds a core mental-model for building a Growth Mindset and how to seek inspiration around you. Avoid getting caught in group-think or relationships that create Fixed Mindset thinking and be more yourself.

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Questions to reflect on
What are my strengths? When do I feel like I am being myself?

I am putting my energy directly into the thing I want to do or is it postponed for some reason?

Is there a faster way to reach the lifestyle I want?

Who are my idols? Why do I look up to them? Could I have better idols?

Who are 5 cool but very different friends to me, what would they tell me to do?


Chapters:
00:00 - What is a Growth Mindset?
00:20 - You are not the 5 people you spend time with
01:23 - How Skiing proves others don't affect you
04:08 - Don't be blocked from being yourself
04:40 - Best Friends Don't Need To Be Aspirational Figures
06:30 - Opposite can work
08:50 - Choose your inspiration
09:36 - Small encounters can have butterfly effects
10:53 - Prioritise healthy relationships
11:30 - Avoid being lost in generic groups/cliques
12:08 - Sahil Lavingia and GumRoad
13:53 - Build Variety in your relationships
14:53 - Questions to journal on (see above)
16:05 - Life tips
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