BONUS | How to stay calm and help my toddler through their big feelings

This week's listener question is in response to our previous episode "Whole Brain Child | How to boost your child's brain development":

Question 1. I have a 3 year old (will be 4 in May) who I would love to figure out better. I feel like I kinda failed him when it comes to the regulating emotion piece. I used to (and still often do) get very flustered at his big emotions. I wish I would have been better at staying calm and helping him get back to the upstairs brain but I feel like my response probably made it worse for him. I would sometimes let out a loud scream or get angry with him… basically just handle the emotions in the worst way. I still often find myself going there but now at least I notice myself doing it before it gets “outside” of my brain/body. So my question- is there something I should do/say/practice with him when those big emotions come up? I don’t want him to grow up stuffing scary emotions deep down because that’s how I grew up.
Question 2. Kinda piggybacking on the last question, I feel like I have a VERY hard time moving my own brain from the downstairs up once I’m in the “basement”… tips for adults? 

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