146. Stress Resets: How to Change Your Internal Dialogue to Communicate Better

Stress can get in the way of our communication with others. To manage our stress, psychologist Jenny Taitz says, we first need to adjust the conversations that we have with ourselves.Taitz is an assistant clinical professor in psychiatry at the University of California, Los Angeles, and the author of several books, including Stress Resets: How to Soothe Your Body and Mind in Minutes. According to her, much of the stress we experience is self-created through negative thought patterns and harsh self-criticism. “We're doing this to ourselves all the time,” she says. But as we become aware of these unhelpful mental loops, Taitz’ “resets” can help us disrupt them and reframe self-talk in more productive waysIn addition to changing our self-talk, Taitz offers tools for refreshing our communication with others. In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, she and host Matt Abrahams explore her G.I.V.E. framework — how being gentle, interested, validating, and easy-mannered equips us for more positive conversations with ourselves and othersEpisode Reference Links:Jenny Taitz: Website Jenny’s Book: Website Communicator Jenny admires: Sharon Salzberg Ep.69 Feeling Nervous? How Anxiety Can Fuel Better Communication: YouTube / Website Ep.122 How to Be More Confident and Calm in Your Communication: Managing the "ABC’s" of...: YoutubeConnect:Email Questions & Feedback >>> thinkfast@stanford.eduEpisode Transcripts >>> Think Fast Talk Smart WebsiteNewsletter Signup + English Language Learning >>> FasterSmarter.ioThink Fast Talk Smart >>> LinkedIn Page,  Instagram, YouTubeMatt Abrahams >>> LinkedInStanford GSB >>> LinkedIn & TwitterChapters:(00:00:00) IntroductionHost Matt Abrahams introduces guest Jenny Taitz, a clinical psychologist and an assistant clinical professor in psychiatry at UCLA.(00:00:51) Understanding the Stress CycleExplanation of the stress cycle, highlighting common mistakes in stress management.(00:02:38) Practical Tips for Managing StressAdvice on resetting the mind, body, and behavior to manage stress more effectively.(00:05:50) Addressing Overthinking and RuminationTechniques for reducing overthinking and rumination, and recognizing and redirecting unproductive thought patterns.(00:08:45) Swapping "Why" for "How"Benefits of changing one's internal dialogue from "why" to "how" questions, facilitating a more proactive and less stressful mindset.(00:10:56) Communicating EmpathyIntroduction to the GIVE acronym, a method to help improve empathetic communication.(00:12:58) The Final Three QuestionsJenny shares her personal methods for managing stress, a communicator she admires, and three ingredients for successful communication.(00:17:33) ConclusionSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.