151: Parenting Middle Schoolers with Phyllis Fagell

In this episode of The Peaceful Parenting Podcast, I talk with Phyllis Fagell, a licensed clinical counselor, school counselor, and author of two books. We discuss how to parent Middle Schoolers (9-15 year olds) and focus on staying curious and coaching them through challenges with friends.   We talk about: 3:55 Why middle school is parents’ “Last best chance”  5:42 Some differences based on gender during Middle School 7:35 Fitting in vs. Belonging 10:00 Our role as parents when witnessing friend conflicts 15:10 Balancing accepting kids as they are and helping with social skills 20:00 How to lead with curiosity when our kids are unkind  25:11 Characteristics of bullying 28:22 What to do if your child is being bullied 36:00 FOPO (Fear of Other People’s Opinions) 40:45 How to know if your child needs additional support 42:36 How did COVID affect middle schoolers   Download the episode transcript HERE    Resources mentioned in this episode: Middle School Matters https://amzn.to/4brcCbo  Middle School Superpowers https://amzn.to/3y8eeZp  The Congruence App (voice activated self coaching for teens)- Email service@congruence.app for a free month. Include the name “The Peaceful Parent Podcast” in the subject of the email https://phyllisfagell.com/ IG @pfagell   Connect with Sarah Rosensweet   Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahrosensweet/  Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/peacefulparentingfreegroup Website: https://www.sarahrosensweet.com  Join us on Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting  Newsletter: https://reimaginepeacefulparenting.com/newsletter Book a short consult or coaching session call: https://book-with-sarah-rosensweet.as.me/schedule.php