238. How to Create Boundaries & Reclaim your Unicorn Space with Eve Rodsky #FabulousFriends

Today's guest is Eve Rodsky. She wrote the book Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live), which gamifies the life management system to help partners and families reimagine their relationships. She's elevated the cultural conversation about the value of unpaid labor and care, and provides a system that trades in assumptions for values based decision-making. Asking the simple, yet profound question, “what would happen if we treated our homes as our most important organization?” Eve’s New York Times bestselling book was one of Reese's book club picks, followed by an award-winning documentary and book sequel “Find Your Unicorn Space: How to Reclaim Your Creative Life in a Too Busy World.”We also cover…00:02:08 — Bringing Awareness to the ‘Invisible Work’ ConversationHousehold inequalities that prevent us from exploring our creative spaceGoing from a lawyer to a gender division of labor expertHer dreams of smashing glass ceilings to feeling emotionally and physically abandoned at work and at homeThe start of her Fair Play journey after becoming a mother of twoLearning that 93% of household work is done by mothersWhy invisible work remains unseen for late stage capitalist patriarchy to continuePushing for equality in the school system 00:11:40 – Quantifying the “Sh*t I do” Spreadsheets for Maternal tasksDispelling the conditioned belief placed on mothers to manage the householdCreate an ownership mindset with Fair Play cardsHow the ‘lead dad’ movement started creating more connection in their livesTurning the mom and dad job description into an even playing field Kelly’s take on her non-traditional household & addressing mom guiltSharing the Magic Suit (invisible workload)Checking in with your partner to divide up the workloadHow taking ownership and accountability for mistakes creates new relationship dynamics00:24:35 — Setting Boundaries, Systems, and Communication in the Home Learning to treat your home as the most important organizationApplying her project management skills to her own homeSetting boundaries around your ‘availability’ as a mother“Why did I have to earn my own personal time?”The generational disconnect: from selfless to selfishWomen’s time being infinite like sand, and men’s time being finite like diamondsChanging the narrative that has led us to become compliant in our own oppression00:38:08 — Protecting Your Unicorn Space3 exercises to create curiosity, connection, and completionDefining your guilt & shame Setting up your Unicorn Space by outlining your valuesCreating the system behind setting boundariesWhy stripping your values strips you of yourselfHonoring your partner’s creative spaceTrade in assumptions for value-based decision making with Fair Play & Unicorn SpaceResources:Website: EveRodsky.com Instagram: @everodskyInstagram: