Ki Teitzei כי תצא 2024 Marriage. What is it?

There is a discussion about marriage. What is the cause and what is the effect? Is the cause the man marrying a woman and therefore she acquires the money/ring, or does she acquire the money/ring and that causes for the marriage to be established? Regardless, our relationship with Hashem is like a marriage and there are two ways to serve Him. One is when the keddusin/marriage comes first. Kadosh means to separate, so we first separate from everything negative followed by the kesef “silver/money” which comes from the language of love. This means that afterwards we work on our bond and our love with Hashem. That is a systematic logical way of serving Him. The second approach is where we go beyond logic and jump into the relationship, connecting to Him and loving Him in a very deep way which automatically causes all the negative to disappear. Every Jew is capable of both ways. The main thing is to have a relationship.לקו״ש יט-ג